Dear Favour,

He can't be more blatant in his desire to discontinue the relationship with you. Stop calling or sending him text messages, he obviously had reflected on his vision and desire for the relationship and having found it doesn't fit into his plans he decided to quit.

Rather than try to hold on to a dream that isn't real, let go. Isn't it better he made up his mind this early? Rather than feel bad, you should be happy that he didn't deceive you to continue the relationship when he knew it won't work.

You should applaud his honesty and sincerity in making bold his desire to discontinue with you. A lot of young men in his shoes wouldn't have done what he did. Instead, they would take delight in egging the lady on until it becomes too painful and hopeless for the woman to begin again.

Besides, what if both of you had discovered your unsuitability for each other after tying the knots?

In every situation, we are told to give God all the glory. The early demise of the relationship underscores God's love for you. Cherish that love by allowing your heart the freedom to love again. This time, tell God to help you in selecting the man. We all need His divine love and help to scale through difficult situations. Doubtless, his attitude would hurt you so much given the fact that for three months he brought his peculiar brand of laughter and joy into your life. The best you can do for yourself now is to let go of those memories by allowing quality friends into your life to help you capture memories of the time before you met him, those things that brought you so much joy and peace.

The trick is, however, not to rush yourself into forgetting. When your memory veers to him, allow it because trying to crush it would make the pains too much to tolerate.

Give yourself to the healing powers of time. Don't rush into any relationship until you are sure the memory of this man is completely painless.

Sometimes, people rush into new relationships with the intention of using it to heal their pains. Life doesn't work that way. When one tries to use one relationship to heal another, there is the tendency of ending up holding the wrong end of the stick, since the sense of betrayal and pains becloud one's ability to think clearly.

By being with your friends, though it won't stop you completely from thinking about him, however, it would help caution the tendency of your mind to dwell permanently on the issue.

You need the companion of very good and understanding friends to make you whole again. Turn to supportive friends or family members to give you the confidence and encouragement to move on, in addition to praying to God for His presence in your life.

Good luck.